tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post363103822151799936..comments2024-03-19T08:35:01.699+00:00Comments on Love my life: Look after yourselfMeanqueenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02705837426373680532noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-885081979474405952010-07-24T00:12:06.679+01:002010-07-24T00:12:06.679+01:00Very sad news indeed Ilona. I remember he did not ...Very sad news indeed Ilona. I remember he did not show for your online chat over Xmas. I sincerley hope that his suffering is not too lomg and that maybe we cabn all learn from his mistakes!<br />Chin up, thinking of you.<br />SharonSharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16259302795139490028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-22945637136443632782010-07-23T14:23:21.215+01:002010-07-23T14:23:21.215+01:00I'm so sorry to hear about your brother Ilona....I'm so sorry to hear about your brother Ilona. Hopefully his computer can be fixed up in his room so that you can be in contact. Thank you for the wake-up call as I believe most of us can tend to overindulge.Manchester Lass, Now and Thenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04946068658998389838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-6079137441251039092010-07-23T11:04:41.375+01:002010-07-23T11:04:41.375+01:00I am very sorry to hear about your brother Ilona. ...I am very sorry to hear about your brother Ilona. I hope that he is able to spend the rest of his days being happy with family and friends, and that this news does not bring him down. <br /><br />Best wishes to you.Tigerleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03147790595956066223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-60534420551036735282010-07-22T22:57:41.994+01:002010-07-22T22:57:41.994+01:00Thank you kindly for your comments. Lynn, it came ...Thank you kindly for your comments. Lynn, it came as a bolt from the blue to me as well. I never hear from my brother from one year to the next, sometimes even longer, we only have an email address to contact him. His wife made contact with us because he is unable to, she is understandably distraught. She will try and get the computer fixed up in his room so we can speak, but his speech is muddled. <br /><br />Jane, it's true, we do not know if there are any other influences which have played a part in his condition, but he has been a life long heavy smoker, and at times he has neglected to eat properly. He was complaining of feeling ill a year ago, but did not seek medical advice. <br /><br />Sarina, I feel for you. Please don't stop telling your partner how much damage he is doing to himself. My sister smoked for many years, I am guilty of nagging her to stop, thank God she did. My father died of a heart attack aged 46, after years of smoking and heavy drinking, and my mother who also smoked and was overweight, died of heart disease at 64. So you can see why I am trying my very best to look after myself. I only hope I have some of my uncle Stan's genes, he is my dad's brother and he is 87 and doing fine. <br /><br />Well done knithappens, stick with it, I hope you go from strength to strength, and have a long and happy life.Meanqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02705837426373680532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-47022960852624568732010-07-22T22:25:23.912+01:002010-07-22T22:25:23.912+01:00It is difficult when someone contributes to their ...It is difficult when someone contributes to their own demise Illona, I have a family member who is doing just the same thing to himself.<br /><br />I do hope that you get to see your brother again. Take care of yourself. xxsamfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04022623559706590451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-47871252453838696862010-07-22T21:53:09.822+01:002010-07-22T21:53:09.822+01:00Ilona, I am so sorry to hear your news about your ...Ilona, I am so sorry to hear your news about your brother. I will be thinking of both of you at this time. Jane xxJem's Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12960327163871502387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-16109404382674767452010-07-22T21:37:38.277+01:002010-07-22T21:37:38.277+01:00Sadly, we can not change people and the way the ha...Sadly, we can not change people and the way the have chosen to live. We all have that choice, to be the best we can, to care for ourselves the best we can. Some of us know instinctively how to do that. Others just live carefree, and we often see them waisting their lives, but we can not change that for them. It`s their choice and we have to respect it, even if it hurts us to see their demise.<br />My partner smokes, heavily. I wish he could give it up. I can`t make him do that. He must find it in himself, to want to better his life.<br />And, ultimately he might not give up.<br />I know that I might well outlive him, evenso I`m the one with asthma. His lung capacity is already far worse than mine. I have come to accept his choice of how he wants to be. I just learned to enjoy his company for as long as I shall have it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09114653674812242486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-54037751070992897272010-07-22T21:24:25.140+01:002010-07-22T21:24:25.140+01:00I feel for you and hope, you can still see your br...I feel for you and hope, you can still see your brother, one day. Best wishes to you and specially your brother, but also lots of hugs. xxxxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09114653674812242486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-20547431126425902312010-07-22T20:27:59.357+01:002010-07-22T20:27:59.357+01:00So sorry to hear about your brother, Ilona - the l...So sorry to hear about your brother, Ilona - the last paragraph of your post came as a bolt from the blue. I really hope that you might see him again - family is so important. xLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01554371540463688108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-41280678349705051022010-07-22T20:05:47.700+01:002010-07-22T20:05:47.700+01:00Sorry to hear your sad news big hugs xSorry to hear your sad news big hugs xJustinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06195870059477025705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-69984111695533926372010-07-22T18:44:22.258+01:002010-07-22T18:44:22.258+01:00I am so sorry to hear abotu your brother, I have s...I am so sorry to hear abotu your brother, I have started ( since April) to get fit and healthy againas i want to be here for my kids and grand kids, but I also want to value myself, look after myself better, and it is so empowering, the quotes ring so trueAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04374600534592412579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-11919304236427406392010-07-22T17:16:09.686+01:002010-07-22T17:16:09.686+01:00So sorry to hear about your brother Ilona - my sis...So sorry to hear about your brother Ilona - my sister, who lived in Australia, died two years ago after a very short illness so we were unable to get to see her. She was 69 so not that old. Husband's brother who sadly fitted all the things you cite regarding neglecting oneself also died last year from something that could have been prevented by taking a little advice. I suppose in the end we all have to follow our own path.Jeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14553005051612551946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-23502449368586136682010-07-22T16:08:34.342+01:002010-07-22T16:08:34.342+01:00That is sad news, I am sorry.That is sad news, I am sorry.Kathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04003521059890699861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-39139042187286702162010-07-22T14:25:21.592+01:002010-07-22T14:25:21.592+01:00It is very sad to die so young Ilona, but given wh...It is very sad to die so young Ilona, but given what we now know about the over-riding influence of our genetic inheritance and our environment (asbestos, ground gas etc), I don't think we can apportion personal blame to the sufferers of cancer.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12243498106528638696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556657999892839298.post-7395632147085837272010-07-22T13:35:07.679+01:002010-07-22T13:35:07.679+01:00Oh Ilona, I'm so sorry to hear this news of yo...Oh Ilona, I'm so sorry to hear this news of your brother. Whatever his eating habits it's far too young an age. I hope you get to see him and share a few words of care. Hugs Ruth xRuthdigshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01560136830586473734noreply@blogger.com