Hello. I've had a lovely walk this afternoon, It was quite hot in the sunshine. A bit disappointing to see a pile of rubbish had been fly tipped on the track along the bottom of the wood.
I noticed a couple of plastic gates in the pile. Not broken, so I rescued them. I had a gate like this before to fill the gap. After so many years it started to break up and I had to chuck it. The two upright posts are still there and I had a pallet as a makeshift gate. It was just a matter of slotting this new gate onto the posts. I gave my friend the other one, she is going to place a planter in front of hers and grow climbing plants up it.
The latest coffee chat is published.
Five miles walked today. By the way, those doing the 1000 mile challenge, the target for the end of September is 749 miles. Keep at it.
Wise words Ilona. I spent 19 years of my life with an abusive man. I had two small children and no money of my own. This man used to unplug the landline phone and take it to work with him as he was convinced I was discussing him with other people. I managed to escape one day, away from his physical and verbal abuse. I have a happy life now and my children are grown up. I'm glad I walked away.
I know what you mean about anger being draining.It seems alot of young Mams have it as well these days.Where I live there are street arguments between them...and I do mean loud arguments in front of their little ones.A family that moved in near me is yelling at the top of her voice at her 1 and 3 year old,calling the autistic 3 year old a retard.What the hell is wrong with her!.She yells so loud that I can hear it when I am sat in my garden.And she is due to have another baby in December!.Her and her husband cant even be bothered to clear the garden so the little ones can play out there..it is all overgrown and used for dumping Tesco trollys,old boxs and any old crap she dosnt want.She has support workers,but they dont go inside the house...just stand out side,talking to her ticking a few boxs.I try to avoid getting angry these days...but hearing this most days makes my blood boil.I have tried talking to her about it and she just laughs and says the kids know she doesnt mean the abusive things she shouts at them.What the hell,!!!...I loved your coffee chat video and your Summer house is holding up really well.It looks so cozy and I would love one to escape into!xx
Its just the anger to the little ones that bothers me.They shouldnt be subjected to the foul swearing and name calling she directs at them.I dont think for one minute she would turn on me so Im not worried about that.I have even offered to help her and and her hubby do the front garden because she moans that there is no where for the kids to play...but she says that hubby suffers from depression...he does seem fine though when he is buying cannabis from the local drug dealer who comes round!.And she is pregnant so she says she doesnt want to start pulling weeds up!I have only offered help when she is moaning about things,but it does seem that there is no helping some people.xx
i must admit to being terrible for claiming useful bits from the local fly tipping i spotted on my travels , i once got approached by some dopey council clipboard carrier and had to explain that i was reclaiming a stack of breezeblocks not dumping them , ive my eye on some useful timber to do a few shed repairs at the moment
At least we are not spending on buying new, when we can re use something second hand. Plenty of timber in that pile I saw, shall I get you some. I don't need any wood at the moment.
I used to walk but got out of the habit in France because there aren't any designated footpath walks, but now we are back in the UK (Shropshire), I can walk again. Last weekend we walked two miles, which is a start! Shame about the dumping of things on the footpath, but at least you were able to 'rescue' the gates!
I just watched your video and you have made perfect sense. My own parents used to argue and sometimes came to blows in front of me and my younger brother and older sister. I can still remember the fear in the pit of my stomach when I woke up in the night to hear them and hear the police knocking the door. I made a point never to air disagreements in front of my own children. My childhood made me hate confrontation of any kind and I do walk away if I can. However, I have always stood up for myself and will defend my family to the end. I dont think anger solves anything though and avoid people I find to be the aggressive sort. Well said Ilona 👍
You are Meanqueen sitting on your Throne !!! How comfy does that chair look!!! Very plush seating arrangements for your garden room there, Ilona. Always good to listen to your thoughts. I enjoyed your coffee chat again. Yes, angry people are to be avoided at all costs. Bad for your health, they are. Stay happy. Stay calm. Xx
Looking at that pile of rubbish, a lot of it could still be usable for people. It would have been easy to put it outside their own place and put a free to take sign on it. Our small town has started a Give and Take site on Facebook to show anything you want to give away for free.
It transpires that the people whose rubbish it is have come forward to say that they paid someone to take it away. It isn't anyone from the village, they came from the town to dump it here.
I watched your video, Ilona, and enjoyed it as always. Ya know.... "anger" is a God-given emotion, the same as happiness, sadness, etc. I suppose if you don't have a husband and don't have any children, that would cut down your opportunities quite a bit, to be "angry". Having little contact with the outside world would show the same result. The emotion of "anger" can produce good results, in the end, so it's an emotion we need. Just my thoughts~ Andrea xoxo
Wise words Ilona. I spent 19 years of my life with an abusive man. I had two small children and no money of my own. This man used to unplug the landline phone and take it to work with him as he was convinced I was discussing him with other people. I managed to escape one day, away from his physical and verbal abuse. I have a happy life now and my children are grown up. I'm glad I walked away.
ReplyDeleteGood for you, Linda. My toxic relationships only lasted a short time. I am pleased that I got out when I did.
DeleteI know what you mean about anger being draining.It seems alot of young Mams have it as well these days.Where I live there are street arguments between them...and I do mean loud arguments in front of their little ones.A family that moved in near me is yelling at the top of her voice at her 1 and 3 year old,calling the autistic 3 year old a retard.What the hell is wrong with her!.She yells so loud that I can hear it when I am sat in my garden.And she is due to have another baby in December!.Her and her husband cant even be bothered to clear the garden so the little ones can play out there..it is all overgrown and used for dumping Tesco trollys,old boxs and any old crap she dosnt want.She has support workers,but they dont go inside the house...just stand out side,talking to her ticking a few boxs.I try to avoid getting angry these days...but hearing this most days makes my blood boil.I have tried talking to her about it and she just laughs and says the kids know she doesnt mean the abusive things she shouts at them.What the hell,!!!...I loved your coffee chat video and your Summer house is holding up really well.It looks so cozy and I would love one to escape into!xx
ReplyDeleteMaybe best not to say anything to your neighbours. They could turn on you.
DeleteIts just the anger to the little ones that bothers me.They shouldnt be subjected to the foul swearing and name calling she directs at them.I dont think for one minute she would turn on me so Im not worried about that.I have even offered to help her and and her hubby do the front garden because she moans that there is no where for the kids to play...but she says that hubby suffers from depression...he does seem fine though when he is buying cannabis from the local drug dealer who comes round!.And she is pregnant so she says she doesnt want to start pulling weeds up!I have only offered help when she is moaning about things,but it does seem that there is no helping some people.xx
Deletei must admit to being terrible for claiming useful bits from the local fly tipping i spotted on my travels , i once got approached by some dopey council clipboard carrier and had to explain that i was reclaiming a stack of breezeblocks not dumping them , ive my eye on some useful timber to do a few shed repairs at the moment
ReplyDeleteAt least we are not spending on buying new, when we can re use something second hand. Plenty of timber in that pile I saw, shall I get you some. I don't need any wood at the moment.
DeleteI used to walk but got out of the habit in France because there aren't any designated footpath walks, but now we are back in the UK (Shropshire), I can walk again. Last weekend we walked two miles, which is a start!
ReplyDeleteShame about the dumping of things on the footpath, but at least you were able to 'rescue' the gates!
Looks like that gate was meant to end up in your garden! Great addition.
ReplyDeleteI just watched your video and you have made perfect sense. My own parents used to argue and sometimes came to blows in front of me and my younger brother and older sister. I can still remember the fear in the pit of my stomach when I woke up in the night to hear them and hear the police knocking the door. I made a point never to air disagreements in front of my own children. My childhood made me hate confrontation of any kind and I do walk away if I can. However, I have always stood up for myself and will defend my family to the end. I dont think anger solves anything though and avoid people I find to be the aggressive sort. Well said Ilona 👍
ReplyDeleteYou are Meanqueen sitting on your Throne !!! How comfy does that chair look!!! Very plush seating arrangements for your garden room there, Ilona.
ReplyDeleteAlways good to listen to your thoughts. I enjoyed your coffee chat again. Yes, angry people are to be avoided at all costs. Bad for your health, they are.
Stay happy. Stay calm. Xx
Looking at that pile of rubbish, a lot of it could still be usable for people. It would have been easy to put it outside their own place and put a free to take sign on it. Our small town has started a Give and Take site on Facebook to show anything you want to give away for free.
ReplyDeleteIt transpires that the people whose rubbish it is have come forward to say that they paid someone to take it away. It isn't anyone from the village, they came from the town to dump it here.
DeleteI watched your video, Ilona, and enjoyed it as always. Ya know.... "anger" is a God-given emotion, the same as happiness, sadness, etc. I suppose if you don't have a husband and don't have any children, that would cut down your opportunities quite a bit, to be "angry". Having little contact with the outside world would show the same result. The emotion of "anger" can produce good results, in the end, so it's an emotion we need. Just my thoughts~ Andrea xoxo
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