I was halfway through writing a post, and thought, hang on a minute, I think I've written about this before. I hate to repeat myself, don't want to bore myself or to bore other people, writing the same old same old. I did a quick search with the 'Search This Blog' button, top right, typed in the words, 'Sugar Daddy', and yep, there it is, 21st November 2011. You may ask why I was going to write about that now, well I'll tell you, it was the subject of my radio chat this morning. So, to save me a lot of work, waffling on re-hashing the story, why not read the original.
http://meanqueen-lifeaftermoney.blogspot.co.uk/2011/11/one-decision-and-it-might-have-all-been.html
See, I can pull something up from over a year ago, but I can't remember what I did last week, ha ha. Bugger, now I've got to think of something else to write about, ha ha. Toodle Pip.
Same here! I can vividly remember the (perfectly ordinary) tablecloth from my parents' house but can't remember whether I did the recycling...yesterday!
ReplyDeleteJust read the post from last year, it was a wise decision, a friend of mine married for security several years ago. She loved the life initially, not having to drag herself out of bed to work, being fussed over and so on. Slowly she felt stifled and trapped when she decided to go back to work her husband was shocked and angry, he could not accept that she needed her independence and a life outside of the home. It all ended badly, the divorce was messy and protracted, she became quite ill and he turned into a giant sulky toddler with full on tantrums.
ReplyDeleteThank you for that story, Pam. I think your friend married for the wrong reasons. A sad story.
DeleteI have a relative who married a very wealthy, charming man-who is used to getting what he wants. 15 years on she is trapped, unhappy and he manipulates and cheats on her.
ReplyDeleteYou made the right choice Ilona.
Ruth x
It's difficult to watch a relative or friend make a big mistake. I hope she gets that lightbulb moment when she realises she has to get out of the relationship.
DeleteYou seemed to have made the right decision for yourself. But I can't help but think it is wonderful that this guy treated the woman he loved, "like a princess". So many men don't treat their women with that kind of honor. And you know, being treated that way doesn't always mean that the man is trying to "keep" the woman, I'm lucky to have one of those fellows ;o) Ever wonder what things would have been like if he came along later in your life?
ReplyDeleteI think I would still feel the same, Josephine. I don't want anyone to put me on a pedestal, I would feel smothered, I would have to break away and do my own thing. I believe that a partnership should be totally equal. If I don't feel the same way about a man, as he feels about me, it will not work. Whether he has money of not.
DeleteI would have done the same thing. We all need to be true to ourselves. Even though Sugar Daddy seemed like a good guy, it's better for you to follow your heart. Good for you Ilona!!
ReplyDeleteI would have been chafing at the bit after just a few dates with that man. If I sensed that my independence was at stake I would be gone in a heartbeat. Think you were soooo right! I have a husband who completely respects who I am and what I do and has never tried to change me. Especially now in retirement, it would be homicidal if we did not have mutual respect for ezch others interests. My mother used to say, "I married him for better or for worse, not for lunch!"
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