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Saturday, 9 June 2018

Need to say this.

Hello. I don't go onto other people's blogs and tell them what they should be doing, when I don't see things as they do. They are different to me, and conduct their lives in whichever way they think fit. I might not always agree with them, but what's it got to do with me anyway. It's their blog, I read, make the odd comment, then move on. No point in making waves, I like a simple life and prefer to pass by  those lifestyles which do not match my own.

So why then do people come onto my blog and tell me what I should be doing? Why do they feel the need to voice their opinions on how I should conduct my life? I don't care that people would do things differently in similar circumstances. You are not me, and I am not you.

I have butchered the previous post, and some of the comments, because I am fed of those who attempt to impose their own superior values on me. This is what I would do, blah blah blah. Your way is not better than my way, we are all different.

Now I am going to get on with my crafting and art, and garden. I may be back on here at some point. Have a nice weekend.

Ilona

71 comments:

  1. Hi...well said. Wouldnt the world be a boring place if we were all the same. The word "Sheep" comes to mind! Carry on being exactly who you are and doing what you do to make you happy. 'Sod em' thats what i say. Sending hugs and love xx

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  2. I totally agree with your comments in this post, it seems that this is a common problem and I think it is such a shame that some people do not treat bloggers with respect and basic manners, it is a problem throughout society too and it maddens me. I bumped into Jane , who previously blogged as Frugal Queen , this week, she told me that she gave up blogging as some people were so vile and her tips and advice helped many people. I do hope that you can continue to enjoy your blogging it brings so much pleasure to so many, best wishes Chrissie.

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  3. Ilona - I'm sorry you've had this experience. I call it Facebook syndrome - everyone thinks their lives are brilliant and opinions are flashes of genius, and are determined to correct the rest of humanity. Ummm, no .......

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  4. I have just subscribed to receive your posts through email as I have been reading you on Bloglovin and rarely comment. I’m so sorry people are trying to tell you how to live your life. I love your blog and even have a section on Bloglovin of saved posts under Mean Queen Wisdom. I hope you have a good day. Your faithful reader Tina.

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  5. Ilona
    I read your blog because I like it. I especially like your barden and craft posts. Please keep posting.

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  6. It's your blog, your life, which you live and write how you wish...............

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  7. Geeeez! It is YOUR blog. YOU can write anything you want. People should keep those comments to themselves. There are some blogs I no longer follow and we can all “ vote with our feet”.
    I enjoy your point of view and a look into your lifestyle. Your frugal tips help many.
    You go, girl!
    Joyce

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  8. Sometimes it’s hard to bite the bullet when people give ‘advice’ that wasn’t asked for. Stick to your guns. You only need to answer to yourself.

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  9. Hello Ilona. I think I must have missed the post you edited, when it first came out, so don't really understand the ins and outs, but just wanted to say ignore the negativity, whatever it was. I think you are an inspirational person, are kind, creative with a great positive attitude we could all learn from. In any case everyone has the right to live as they choose, provided they are not harming anyone or anything.

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  10. Well said and amen!

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  11. Barbara (Canada)9 June 2018 at 13:32

    I didn't have chance to read your last post until this morning, but I'm sorry if there were unkind comments. 'Live and let live' is my take on life. Your plants and flowers are lovely - there is nothing like that where I live. I really liked your 'cutlery crafts' - they would fetch a packet at our local farmers market. Take care and enjoy the day.

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  12. Oh my goodness, I suppose it's about the basket; you were so inspired to give another life and it came out beautiful. I like it though that you've kept the title; it becomes very intriguing !!

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  13. There is a saying in my house..short and simple.."you do you"
    Puts off everyone trying to say how everyone else should do it their way. Have a great weekend!

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    1. Suzanne, I love your comment "you do you". I use that a lot with my family, lol.

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  14. I love you just the way you are. Ignore the poop heads.

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  15. Do your thing and all those to who different can do theirs. Ignore the criticism, open or implied. We love your blog just as it is. i am having fun sticking bits of paper together to make junk journals and using all the waste paper that would have gone in the bin. Have a good weekend.

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  16. well said, I had a sarky comment yesterday on fakebook or should that be farcebook? anyway according to this woman, it seems all bloggers are just chancers just after freebies! I soon put them straight, pointed out in the ten years I have been blogging, 'met' some nice people, Jo

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  17. Well said Ilona, I know exactly where you are coming from, infact I got to the stage where I had enough of a certain individual and stopped writing my blog, now I have started a new blog (UK Frugal Living) about frugality and simplicity, I need to toughen up and not let remarks get to me, infact I am going to be more selective when it comes to publishing comments in the future, as you say there are those who want to impose their superior values, and we are all certainly different. Enjoy your weekend Ilona and don't let the buggers get you down.
    Best wishes
    Marlene.

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  18. I agree with you Ilona. There are too many people nowadays who have the need to voice their opinions with no thought at all. It is one of the the downsides of social media. Please don’t let this stop you blogging. Reading your blog has become part of my daily routine and I for one would miss you x

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  19. oh trolls...I enjoy your blog so much...you are a spot of originality in a world of copies...an inspiration to so many of us...through your words I have found my way to saving more and spending less...being yourself is a wonderful way to live...

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  20. Why can't people just live and let live. Would be a boring world if we were all the same.

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  21. I like your blog. Gentle and quirky. Please can anyone who doesn’t like it just stop reading? Why spoil it for the rest of us who enjoy it?

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  22. Tell them to boil their heads! See, I’m telling you what to do......lol

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  23. Don't worry Iona, they are sad people with no imagination to make beautiful artwork like yours, and no independance to go dumpster diving.
    I really admire your get up and go

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  24. I find all your posts very inspirational. Your life is not my life but I can learn something or even get a laugh. Ana USA

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  25. Live the life that makes YOU happy

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  26. Reading this makes me feel sad. I totally agree, you aren't asking us about your life, you are sharing it with us and it is no-one else's business to attempt to dictate. I'm sorry you felt you had to change your post and I still think you have an absolutely beautiful garden and also your art work is just like you - clever, creative and interesting. Thank you for sharing both garden and creativity with us.

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  27. How awful. Comments on my posts have always been so supportive to me. I love your posts and we are totally different! Keep going.

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  28. Please ignore the jealously of others.l follow your blog daily and love seeing your craft work garden and cats and as for the pictures you take on your walks- well. After a really hard year I've felt inspired by reading all of your blog and feel that I can go on. Spent this afternoon painting an old wheelbarrow which I hope to fill with plants. Thank you for your blog and ideas. Xx

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  29. I agree with you, why do some people feel they need to tell you what to do on your blog. I read your blog post before you changed it and I am amazed that some people felt the need to dictate to you or leave negative comments on it. I thought it was a great blog and the basket turned out so well after you painted it. I just wish those people would stop trying to spoil things for those of us who always enjoy your blogs very much. They are like a breath of fresh air to most of us who read them. Keep up the good work.

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  30. Well said Ilona, and my god did it need saying.

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  31. Tell them all to flake off. I enjoy hearing from you and hope you will be back soon. Don't let them win by silencing you.

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  32. I have noticed how some of your commenters seem to be very free with their opinions! And it's hard to teach them manners if they haven't learned them by now. Comment moderation makes it easier to keep things civil.

    Your property looks lovely and colourful. And you have a wonderfully creative mind. I'm enjoying your craft posts immensely.

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  33. I don’t comment although I read you. I’ve never understood people who need to tell other people how to live, except to think they may not be as confident in their choices as they claim. Come back soon, your blog is refreshing.

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  34. Don't know what's upset you I think your blog is great but I don't live your way .l am not arty in anyway and totally a chucker but these days you come to mind when I chuck stuff out I always wonder what you would make with it .we all live our own way nothing wrong with that.love your garden art with the cutlery it's brilliant but didn't like the statue so what that's my opinion keep doing it your way Al the best.Kath

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  35. Everyone has a right to live their life as they see fit. Like you, I don't understand why other people think everyone should live the same as they do. It would be a really messed up world if we were all the same. We would still be living as cave men because no one would have a new idea. I enjoy reading your blog because you do believe in yourself and your right not to live a cookie cutter life. Please don't let these people get you down. Just continue to live the life of your choice and be happy.

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  36. So sorry to hear this - you live a life that suits you - you do no harm - and you bring a lot of smiles & good ideas to the rest of us so please just ignore the rest.

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  37. Sigh...I am very sorry to hear you have been harassed....

    I hope I have never contributed to this, with any of my comments. I don't think I have, but...

    All I can say, is sometimes folks are so excited at what they have discovered/what works for them, maybe they think it will work for/benefit everyone...Don't know..

    I can say I always enjoy your blog, although of late I have not had time to read many comments, so I have missed some...

    Please keep on keeping on, and I will keep on keeping on enjoying your posts...

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  38. Hello Ilona, I have never posted a comment before but please don't leave us. Only earlier on today i introduced your blog to my daughter and we think you're brilliant. Don't let nitpicking a***holes bring you down, we love you just as you are. Toodle pip. Margaret

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  39. Hope that youve had a great day in the garden.Its been quite dull here in Leicester today.I managed to do a few bits in the garden this morning.The tomato plants that i grew frow slices of tomato are coming on in leaps and bounds!Although there are no flowers on them yet,you can smell tomatoes when they are being watered.I wish that i had known about this over the years!.Its amazing just how many plants you can grow,with just half a tomato from the fridge.The kitchen scrap potatoes,onions and garlic are growing really well also!.Im trying another avocado stone in my kitchen window,so I will let you know what happens to that!..At this rate i will be having my own multi million pound market stall and you can say that you knew me when Id got nowt,lol!!Hope that the sun shines for you all tomorrow!,xx

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  40. I saw the original post and had no problem with it, and even if I had, I certainly wouldn't have left negative comments, these people need to get a life. I always enjoy your blog Ilona, you have a no nonsense, common sense approach to life and have given me loads of ideas for saving money and being less wasteful.

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  41. joan in michigan9 June 2018 at 21:38

    I love your blog! When I see one of your posts, it's like hearing from a friend. Don't let them get you down. Keep up your cheery attitude and amazing creativity. I'm grateful that your share it with us.

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  42. I enjoy your blog and consider you a free spirit. Don't let mean-spirited busybodies get to you. Your comments are a breath of fresh air! Please continue to post and ignore these spoil-sports. As a Canadian-American who lived in the UK for a year, I think your blog rep-
    resents much that is admirable about the British way of life.

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  43. Keep on doing you blog your way my friend..we love you and all that you do..some people in life are called fire hosers or something like that, they want to douse all the fun in life and have everyone upset or do it their way. If we all listened to some nut job about how we live thousands of miles away from us can you imagine what life would look like..urgh.

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  44. Vicki-MidwestUSA9 June 2018 at 21:57

    I'm so sorry the self-righteous jerks with their mean comments have made you mad enough to step away for a while. Just remember that your posts with their beautiful photos of England, your bright creative works, frugal ideas, and love of cats and dogs are so uplifting and enjoyed by so many. I will keep watching for your return and wish you all the best.

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  45. You hit a nerve. I really enjoy your blog and seeing what you make out the things you find. I think recycling, upcycling, and reusing things is a gift to our planet and brings you and others great pleasure. I live in the USA and especially enjoy a glimpse of the UK through your blog. Keep on bloggin' :)

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  46. It really isn't any of their business how you spend your life Ilona & it's arrogant of them to think it is.I wonder if they are happy with their own life? Rock on Ilona x x

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  47. I am glad I read your post, yesterday, before you changed it! I am sorry you felt the need to alter the post because of some of the comments you received. If those comments pertained to the rescued basket and the plants, please know that I thought what you did with them was wonderful! I don't always comment, although I read your posts and have been reading them for several years, now; but I always admire all the wonderful things you do. I am planning to retire, myself, in the very near future, so, I'll be re-reading some of your posts to get ideas about retirement life!

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  48. It is because you live your life after your own thinking and do the things you want to do, you are so inspiring and interesting.I do not read your blog to change you...I read your blog to change me and the way I live.

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  49. Hello Ilona, I too read the original post and don't undestand what any of the negative critical comments would be referring to. Obviously it's the basket as you've deleted it, but I don't understand why. You improved the look of it and gave it a second life, that's an improvement in my book.

    From what I read in the comments on each post you have more compliments than critiscism so just ignore the grumpy miseries and carry on as you have been doing.

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  50. Yours is the only blog I go on I don’t have time to read lots of others - I trust you and like what you say and your outlook is similar to mine so I enjoy what you write. I must have read your previous blog and can’t think what someone could have said about it in a negative way so I just want to carry on reading as always . Best wishes Illona don’t change please xxxxxx

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  51. Dearest Ilona: I have found much strength and fortitude in reading your wonderful blog. To those that don't, perhaps they have difficulty in understanding the concept of kharma or "do unto others". Just sayin'.... With all kindness and respect to you.

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  52. hi ilona i love your blog and daily posts. i care for a disabled person and reading your posts is lovely and informative. look forward to reading your next one. love to you heidi and mayze from liz and my two cats amy and benny.xx

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  53. Ilona,
    As I hope you know, I love your blog and appreciate the time you spend sharing ideas and learnings. I thank you for the walking group since walking has changed my life in the past few years and you are the one I thank for starting me down that path. There are lots of crazy negative folks in this world. Even folks I ive with every day can be negative, judgmental and controlling so I have decided to do my best to change my point of view when they comment. I am trying to learn not to let negativity make me negative too. I read a quote that I tell myself when I am faced with critical folks. “You can’t calm the storm, you can only calm yourself”. I hope you can let the crazies roll off your back like water off a ducks back.

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  54. Sorry you felt the need to alter your post from yesterday. I saw nothing wrong with it, glad I got to read the post in its entirety. Step back if you need to, I for one will be here to read what you post, when you post, as I find what you write interesting.

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  55. I just want to add my two bobs worth to the previous comments. I completely agree with everyone else and can't understand why people have to impose their thoughts, ideas etc. on others. I always read your blogs and even if it's not what I would always do or think, I never comment as it is your life not mine. I get such a lot of good ideas and inspiration from you and you are such a positive person and I hope you continue to blog. I think these days there are a lot of people who have the wrong attitude to others but don't let them win! The world would be a better place if more people were like you. Thank you for your blog.

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  56. I agree with all of the above, I love your blog, you are so inspirational, even to others who don't live in the UK, you give something to everyone who reads the blog. Keep on keeping on.

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  57. Some people go through their entire lives living someone else's. One of the greatest lines I have ever read is, "When you are writing the story of your life, don't let someone else hold the pen." You hold your own pen well, Ilona. They are just jealous.

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  58. I always think of my blog as being a public diary of a very boring life in my case . I dont care that people dont agree with me, they dont in the real world, if you have that streak of individuality in your soul the sheep dont like it ...Stuff them ...lol

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  59. Hi, Don't take offence Ilona, BUT,it has to be said, that if you put yourself 'out there' in blogland, then all the comments you get are not going to be to your liking. As it's said over and over, we are not all the same, and do not have the same opinions, that doesn't make people bad, unkind and uncaring, (or grumpy miseries) they just have different opinions which is something you comment on in this post. Some folk just love to give opinions (sometimes too strongly) but it's all part of having a comments box, and it's something that has to be accepted unless you remove the option to reply. Not everyone is going to agree.
    I'm not agreeing with whoever it was that upset you this time, (I didn't even see the comment!) -however, I agree with the reply that you should carry on being yourself, you have enough followers to prove you are doing something right ! but someone else mentioned 'sheep' - well if everyone agrees with you (or anyone else) all the time, and the comments are all of the same ilke, isn't that what they are being ? - sheep ? I think it is good to have diverse comments (not hurtful of course) otherwise it just becomes a fan club.
    I've followed your blog for years, don't always comment, but I respect you for what you are and having the courage to live your life the way you want. I certainly don't always agree with what you say or some of your opinions, but you are always interesting and entertaining. I do, however, get a bit fed up with some of the replies that just keep telling you how wonderful you are, constructive comments are much better than 'ego stroking', that to me, is being a 'sheep'.
    Keep on being you, accept all comments unless they are downright rude and hurtful, and don't rise to the the bait - you don't need too.
    Remember you've rattled someones cage or they wouldn't make hurtful comments.

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    1. Hello Wean. I did read the blog before it was altered, and I think I know the comment which started this.
      I read Ilona's blog, and like you, do not always comment. When I do, I do it because I have something I feel worth saying, not just for the sake of it. On a topic, especially if asked, I may share my experience or knowledge, but never be rude or push my values on others, and never flatter for the sake of it.
      Having read your comment I have to say that I couldn't have put it better myself. I agree with each point, and you haven't been offensive in any way at all, just honest and logical.
      Ilona, I understand your reaction yesterday, some days things for whatever reason, affect us more than others, and we have a furious response. I also understand your comment today and how you would perhaps have done things differently. In the cool of a new day, hindsight is something which hits us all. As my OH sometimes says to me, "Let it go now, move on, its not worth getting worked up about." Not easy I know, but hey, there are much more important things in life to worry about.:-)

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    2. I do think it's nice to tell people that you appreciate them though -I don't believe that is being a sheep x

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  60. You are sharing so much creativity, frugality, (in) joy and friendship, with humor and common sense, which I think is a gift to many.
    Those negatively thinking and living people lack all of that and all your uplifting work, inspiration and pleasure have been simply not spent on them.
    Ilona, I'll keep walking with you and not just for those 1000 kilometers this year!
    Cheers,

    Jeanneke.

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  61. If a person logs into your blog, it's because it's unique to you , interesting uplifting and a
    different view on life. I personally really enjoy your creative mind and your ways. ( I don,t like the painted David ha ha) Why would I log on otherwise? So to me if a person logs into your blog doesn,t like what you say, writes a nasty comment, fool them. What a waste of time for them. Bonkers. Jealousy is a terrible thing. You have a life and are generous to share it they don,t.

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  62. A post well said Iona. Unfortunately when we post and share a glimpse of our lives on the internet we open ourselves up to judgment from others. You are incontrol of what people see simply delete.
    It's not like you to be so affect
    By someones comments.
    Today is a new day !🙂

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  63. Hi Ilona, this is the catalyst for you to come back, bigger, stronger and better than ever, show them what you're made of and that they can't affect you. Isn't it funny we take all the positive comments for granted but the poor, lost souls who have no life and live to make disparaging hurtful comments lodge in our minds. The thing they would hate the most is your complete disregard!!!!!
    xoxo

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  64. The only reason i watch youre blog and like it very much is because, you do it youre way and stand behind youre choices. You have backbone and that makes you a inspiration and a positieve energie. So thank you and do youre thing WE LOVE IT!!

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  65. Just want to add my support to you Ilona. I read the original post, and enjoyed it.

    You are the only blogger I always read, you have so much of value to say, and such a great way of saying it. You are a treasure, please don't let the nasties get to you.

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  66. Ilona, it has taken me over an hour to post this(hopefully as laptop keeps freezing; curse and scream) I nearly missed this extra post; PLEASE continue with your opinions as we all LOVE them x and just dismiss the negatives. I LOVE your blog as so many other do; you are a very strong women and we all admire you for this; much love to you and furry friends xxx

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  67. Hmm...I remember reading the old post (and I am sorry you altered it because it was just fine) and recall the comments. I didn't quite get what the comments were getting at. Were they giving gardening advice? Well its in the past now and out of everyone's mind. I was going to say though that there are people who love giving advice and then there are people who will never give advice. I really don't know which I prefer. The person who says what they thinks and puts their two bit in whether its wanted or not or the person who holds back snuggly knowing something that could be helpful or useful to someone. You have to laugh at it all don't you to keep your sanity. I sure understand how you feel when comments are critical. You put your heart and soul, time and effort into this blog and some picky individual comes along and tears it to shreds. So sorry that this happens but always grateful that you do it Ilona because what you write is wonderful. Take care.

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