Tuesday, 8 December 2009

Somewhere in the middle

I can't decide where I fit in any more. I feel young but I am not young, I look younger than my years (so I'm told), I am not old and certainly don't feel old. My head thinks I am 29 but I look more like 50. I've done a lot of living but I've still more to do, so I must be somewhere in the middle.

I know I'm not a teenager because I don't like their music, and I don't go out on a Saturday night to drink myself silly and throw up everywhere. But I know I'm not old because I don't wear cardigans and pearls, and play bingo down the club.

What's brought all this on you might ask. Well, I went out today to the DHL Retired Employees Christmas Dinner, very nice it was, in a local pub. It's the first time I have ever been, they meet three times a year for a meal and a natter. Everyone was very friendly, they made me feel most welcome, but I can't get my head round the fact that I am a pensioner. Looking around I realised I was the youngest person there, and I felt completely out of place.

So where do I go to meet people like me? People who do daft things on a whim, unconventional people, outdoor type people with a sense of adventure. Footloose and fancyfree people who are up for a challenge and not afraid of making a fool out of themselves. Where are they all, or am I the only one?


  1. I'm not sure that actual age has anything to do with it! The mental age is much more important and this is not always apparent.

    I've known a 70 year old act as though she were a young girl and an 11 year old act as though she were 40 ...

    Just BE!

  2. Thank you, I will. No more pensioner dinners for me then, that settles it. Now, where can I buy some cheap roller blades :-)

  3. Dancingonabladeofgrass is right - my 11 year old daughter is proof of that! 11 going on 40! On the other hand, I hit the big four-0 next year and still feel like I'm 23ish!

    Age is all in the mind - and if your mind tells you that you are 29 then that's great! Life is there to grasp and to enjoy, not to give in and act the way that people expect you to once they know your age. Age is just numbers, not who you are or who you have to be! If I lived near you I would drag you out to the pub tomorrow - you sound like a fun person to know :)

  4. Have you ever had contact with U3A? Some branches are very adventurous :).


  5. I did a talk for U3A once, olliebeak, they were great fun. And I am due to do a talk for another U3A in February. They are not far from me so I will see what they are like, and may join if they have a lot going on.


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