Thursday, 24 December 2020

Christmas Eve.

 It was Christmas Eve twenty years ago. The first Christmas in my new house. It should have been our new house, it wasn't to be. He didn't turn up. I blew him out. 

After shedding tons of tears, the very next day I dressed up. For me, not for him. I put a smile on my face, took a photo, and got on with my life. 

I hope you are having a lovely time wherever you are in the world. Merry Christmas to all my readers. Thank you all for being there. Lots of love,   ilona   xxx

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  1. You are quite the looker, Ilona! A very Merry Christmas to you, and thank you again, for the inspiration that you are to live life simply, mindfully and joyfully!

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  2. Have a lovely Christmas Ilona. x

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  3. Merry Christmas Ilona! That's a lovely photo.

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  4. I'm really sorry you had to go through that, Ilona. But you are an inspiration with your "cry your eyes out, drag yourself together, and move forward" attitude. And very generous-spirited of you to share the experience. Finally, re the photo: wowzer!

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  5. I seconded Karia you were certainly a good looking girl.
    Hope you have a nice Christmas, I am like so many I am staying home on my own, my D. Is working but is bringing my dinner I have had the vaccine jab yesterday and so far everything is okay.
    Hooe you have a nice day what you do.
    Thank you for all your posts they brighten up my day.
    Hazel πŸŒ»πŸŒˆπŸŽ…πŸŽ…πŸŽ…

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  6. Lovely legs Ilona! Looking forward to a brand new year. Best wishes. Sally

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  7. Merry Christmas, Ilona. Thank you for another very inspirational story of your life.
    Love and blessings,
    Jeanneke.

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  8. Merry Christmas, a lot of health and joy every day.You look fantastic and marvelous in this photo twenty years ago. Keep smiling and joy.Greetings from anna

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  9. He was the loser...your legs phew!! Men are a rum kettle of fish as my Mother used to sayπŸ˜€πŸ˜€ Have a peaceful Christmas Ilona, looking forward to all your cheery and positive posts in the New Year x

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  10. He was a fool. I admire the spirit you showed, and continue to show. Happy holidays.

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  11. Wooow, you were dazzling Ilona, he was the loser!
    Stay safe and keep your vibes! Happy Holidays!!

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  12. Wow.How could he not fancy you.Reckon you were better off without him!!!!You still look fabulous today and have an amazing positive outlook on life.I love reading you blog.

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  13. Quite the story. Good job for going ahead in your life. 1989 Dec was 1st Christmas we were here in our house. 2 kids. 12/24 day I met my husband when we were serving in US Air force in UK now 44 years ago. Over a cheese ball at a party. That's my story. Have a nice Christmas in spite of sad story. Cheerio and enjoy a cup of tea.☕ or coffee. :)

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  14. Happy Christmas Ilona! Arilx

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  15. Christmas brings hope... Merry Christmas to all 🏑

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  16. My goodness Ilona what lovley legs you have.it wasn't ment to be but you got on and lived your life to the full and you still do.merry Christmas to you and your furry familyx

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  17. You've summed up what's happening now. We've had tears, now we just have to duck it up and get on with life. You have a great figure, he doesn't know what he missed. X

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  18. His loss, Ilona. I know you don't do Christmas, but I hope you have a nice day anyway :). Thanks for the great, interesting posts this year.

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  19. i wish you a merry Christmas, and I love to read in your blog. Cheerio have a nice day

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  20. You continue to amaze! Congrats on a job well done. Wherever he is today, I would like to tell him that he missed out on an amazing woman. Windy with a wind chill of 20 here today. Certainly a treadmill day. Happy holidays!

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  21. Lovely photo of you Ilona so pretty and attractive. You have a kind heart and like me love your dear pets. Do have a peaceful Christmas with love Liz, Amy and Benny.xxx

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  22. Hello, Ilona. Thank you for another year of enjoyable observations and kind connections. Best wishes from your long-ago Grantham-ite pen pal Elaine. Stay well.

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  23. What a stunner! His loss, best wishes Ilona. Margaret x

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  24. Bless, hard times for sure but like you my attitude is if you don't want to be with me then your loss - and it was his loss! You've had and are still having a great life. Have a lovely Christmas Viv x

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  25. Best wishes for 2021 Ilona. Sometimes things do work out for the better even though at the time it feels as if that broken heart will never mend. I think we can all relate. Take care of yourself.

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  26. What a lovely photo of you! A glimpse of stocking top, too, if I'm not mistaken. You did a great job with the makeup too.
    Your life has turned out so well without that, or any man, but it's due to your strength and determination. You deserve every good thing which has happened to you.

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  27. Oh what a great photo! You look wonderful! And it is true life sure throws us curve balls ;). Merry Christmas! And happy new year. Next year has to be better than this year...we certainly set the bar low enough this year.

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  28. Happy Christmas, all the best xxx

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  29. Happy Christmas Ilona.

    As a wise woman told me once "what's for you, won't go by you"

    He wasnt worth it.xx

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  30. Happy Christmas Ilona to you and your fur babies.

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  31. Merry Christmas and many many thanks for your wisdom and sense of fun. I look forward to another year of watching & reading what you get up to!

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  32. Merry Christmas Ilona! Your blog has been an inspiration to me all year, uplifting, and positive.

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  33. Merry Christmas Ilona. You look lovely in the photo really pretty.
    Have a nice Christmas xxx

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  34. yeah best thing those types keep wanting to show up when they feel like it,stunning photo thanx again for another reminder just get on with it :)merry christmas i read your blog everyday,inspiring.

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    1. Exactly, when it suited him. Very one sided.

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  35. Happy Christmas Ilona...n those legs...Wow!!xxx

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  36. Thank goodness he didn't show up, just imagine how different life could have been if he had! lovely pair of pins Ilona I am sure that life has turned out better without him . merry xmas x

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    1. A lucky escape I think. It wouldn't have lasted.

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  37. What a beautiful picture! I just love how you are true to yourself and life every day to the fullest! May 2021 be good for you, here's to great health, and great adventure!

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  38. Wonderful photo! I believe that we shouldn't rely on other's to be happy. You have turned a horrible situation on its head and how you dealt with it is a great example to us all. x

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  39. Sorry to hear that but you have sure blossomed in the Years following. Did you buy the house jointly with him and if so how did you remove his name from the deed? I have been single for many years since I divorced an alcoholic and have done just fine on my own. I'm a strong woman and once I've had enough of something it's done and no changing my mind. I think men should realize that about women. I think when we are on our own for years we realize just how strong we are and that's a great feeling. Happy New Year to you Miss Ilona 🌸

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    1. All my money. He came to view it with me, said he liked it. I moved in, and waited, he never came.

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  40. I have always asked God to show me who people really are. I think he did that for you at that time so you didn't waste any of your life 😎

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    1. Sharon, don't assume I follow any religion, I don't.

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